Age doesn’t matter—or does it?
They say that the secret to a healthy, long-lasting relationship is to accept each other’s flaws. However, this couple’s love for each other has raised eyebrows as it was something that isn’t widely accepted around the world. There is a saying that goes, “age doesn’t matter”, and this couple took that saying to heart.
Amanda Harper and Jay Horsky isn’t your regular couple, despite being together for three years. Though they obviously adore each other so much, people are disgusted at their age gap. Apparently, Amanda and Jay have 33 big years between them—and it didn’t sit well with many.
The pair from Huntington Beach in California, met on Plenty of Fish, after Amanda was drawn to Jay’s ‘greying hair and intense eyes’.
They bonded over Jay’s passion for building Halloween props – and even opened a haunted house business of their own.
Amanda said: ‘We’re hoping to change people’s minds one day at a time by showing how great we are together.
‘It’s annoying having to defend our love, but it’s only typically people in unhappy or toxic relationships who struggle to understand.
‘I lost one friend because I was dating Jay, he didn’t like my relationship based on the age gap – and called me ‘disgusting’, ‘a horrible person’, ‘gold digger’ and more.
‘I don’t understand why I get called nasty things for being in a happy and healthy relationship, it just blows my mind.’
25-year-old Amanda was often bullied and called names online, like being called ‘disgusting’, ‘a horrible person’ and ‘a gold digger’. However, she claims that she simply laughs off those comments.
‘Normally people who work up the courage to ask, “Is he your dad?” which is a conversation starter I then proudly say “he’s my boyfriend”.
‘Even in pictures of us, you can often see people’s shocked or disapproving faces in the background, but we don’t let it get to us and still remain happy.
‘We laugh about it a lot, we never want to associate any negativity towards age gap relationships and want to educate people. ‘The worst part for me is that people can’t see that we are good for each other and very happy.’
Amanda says older men have always been her type but something about Jay was enough for her to go public for the first time with an age gap relationship.
She added: ‘I have always been attracted to older men, but Jay specifically caught my eye.
‘It was definitely his hair, he has that perfect shade of silver, his eyes are so intense and then he’s so happy and focused.
‘I felt like when I was talking, he was paying full attention to me as a person, he seemed genuine as soon as I met him and I knew I wanted to see a lot more of him.
‘He’s so smart and no matter what situation we are in he seems to know what to do better than anyone else, he just takes control of a situation.
‘For me, men under 40 are just too young, when my friends point out someone young and attractive I have to ask them what shirt they are wearing because I can’t see it.
‘I only register men with grey hair, in the same way that certain people only like redheads or blondes, I love greying hair.’